"We appreciate all the hard work you've done for us Tolu, but we've reached the end of the road in our journey with you"

...and just like that, Tolu went from upcoming Lagos big girl to struggling job seeker.

Tolu's case isn't too different from the millions of Nigerians who've unceremoniously lost their jobs following the downward turn of the economy.

Matter of fact, according to the National Bureau of Statistics, no fewer than 3.67 million Nigerians lost their jobs between October 2015 and September 2016.

Losing a job can be a highly confusing and demoralising episode in a person's life. But there's no reason why anyone should bury themselves in a ball of misery over it. 

Just incase you didn't know, American media mogulette and world's richest black woman, Oprah Winfery was fired from her job as an evening news reporter with Baltimore's WJZ-TV after she was told she was unfit for television news.

Let's also not forget the enigmatic Steve Jobs of the iPhone fame who was fired from his own company - Apple! It doesn't get more depressing than that.

Now now that we've established you're in good company - if you've been recently fired, it's important to understand how to deal with the situation. It's important to be gentle on yourself. Allow yourself to feel the emotions you need to go through and give yourself time to think about and process them logically.

It's also fine to express your emotions. So once you have processed your emotions after being fired, you’re allowed to cry, shout, and talk about them with your family or even your close colleagues.

Now learn from the experience. Once you have recognised the feelings and expressed them, approach your company's human resource department. Inquire about what you should do differently at your next job and insist that they highlight a few of your positive and negative qualities - knowing how you are perceived in a professional environment has positive long term effects.

Then you can go on to make the change. You may have to deal with feelings of regret and it may lead to some unanswered questions, but don't allow this to hold you back for too long. Stay positive

So, now that we've dealt with handling the situation, let's discuss why losing your job can be the best thing to happen to you.

1. It's a chance to discover yourself: Embrace this clarity and allow yourself truly discover your passion and life's calling and who know's, you just might be on to your money maker.

2. Learn new skills: The biggest investment one can make is in themselves. So take this time off to learn anew skill or course. It can be career related or even a hobby like cooking, make-up (hello Youtube) or even dance which can lead to the establishment of an entirely new business.

3. Expand your network: Never underestimate the power of a strong network. It can take you from broke ass to millionaire if you play your cards right. So embrace your new found freedom and use the time to cultivate a powerful network. Attend events, conferences/seminars and don't be shy to introduce yourself.

4. Explore your entrepreneurial side: There's no better time to try your hands on a business. It could be service-based or selling a physical product. Even better, it can be a result of all that self-exploring and learning new skills which your new found freedom would have afforded you time to do. The most important thing is to be open to opportunity and be consistent in your hustle.

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