Love & Sex: Is Anything Off Limits When It Comes To Marital Sex?
Sex is a very important aspect of long term relationships like marriage. It's like the oil that keeps the engine of any relationship running smoothly. But as with many other things in life, sex between a couple who have been together for a very long time can become boring and less fun.
No wonder the sex industry all over the world continue to invent various 'toys', gadgets and even sex dolls which are designed to heighten sexual pleasure for couples.
However, the use of these items are more common in the Western world where people are more open about discussing sex and their sexual preferences – unlike in Nigeria where the topic of sex is treated like a taboo, such that people hardly speak of it even though everyone is doing it.
And that brings us to the issue of sex in marriage. Some people are of the opinion that marital sex is sacred and should be treated as such.
One Nigerian clergyman once said that couples who engage in oral sex are doomed and those who have anal sex will burn in hell. Another group of people believe that the 'approved' sex position for married couples is missionary style. Seriously? This is 2018, guys! Should there really be any limits to what happily married couples can do with each other in the bedroom? Have we considered that these 'sexual boundaries' could be one of the causes of infidelity in marriage? It's so bad that some men openly admit that there are certain kinky things they would never do with their wives but they can do them with their girlfriends. Why though? Shouldn’t you be free and vulnerable with the person you swore to spend the rest of your life with? Where do we draw the line?
Recently, American singer, actress and dancer, Teyana Taylor made headlines when she admitted to having a threesome with her husband, Iman Shumpert. In her opinion, being married shouldn’t stop her and her man from having a good time sexually, as long as they both enjoy and consent to it.
Okrrrrr! *in Cardi B's voice*
What do you guys think though? Should married people stick to missionary style only or can they get wild and kinky if they want? Share your thoughts with us.
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