Domestic Violence: Women's Misguided Utterance Contribute - Commissioner
“Some women also cause violence by using abusive words and misguided utterances that can provoke the men,” the Lagos State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, Dr. Lola Akande, said.
Most times when domestic violence is mentioned, attention is focused on men that commit this crime, but less is being said of women who provoke these men to wrath.
That is one thing that the Lagos Commissioner wants changed.
She has put the truth on plain slate, but she also has words for men who violate their women and turn them into punching bags.
"Many women, by their actions, are the cause of the rate of domestic violence in Nigeria," Akande told a gathering at a programme on Management of Domestic Violence, organised by her ministry in Lagos.
According to her negligence, sophistication, misguided utterances, infidelity, use of abusive words and gullibility on the part of the women, are factors that drive domestic violence.
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“It is no longer news that many women have lost their lives through domestic violence.
“The more we try to put the blame on the men folk, the more we will continue to turn blind eyes to the fact that many women are the cause of the domestic violence we see today.
“This is because we fail to understand some important aspects of how most men are wired.
“Some women also cause violence by using abusive words and misguided utterances that can provoke the men.
“But let me also state that a man who beats a woman is a beast, and does not deserve to live with humans.
“No matter how provoked you may be as a man, please, never raise your hand to beat your wife, ” she said.
The commissioner advised men and women to be understanding, tolerant and communicate more, to prevent violence in marriages.