Women are like roses with two ends. The sweet-scented petals that attract and hold you spell-bound are high up for all to see. What most men forget is that they have thorns that equally sting and deeply too.

Remember when you were young and you thought love was an invincible, bulletproof force immune to outside influence, impervious to evil and capable of overcoming all obstacles?

You better wake up! Life happens and people change over time. It's amazing when I see men having strings of girlfriends and they assume - women (especially wives) don't cheat. I wonder if we think they have gold and not blood running their veins. I hate to single handedly destroy your cocoon of self-denial but women do cheat and I must admit it's much more difficult to catch a cheating wife.

Men are not as intelligent as women when it comes to being 'multi-emotionally attached'. I just created it, stop wondering what it means, I will tell you.

Women naturally love and care for their children, husbands and siblings. When she decides to cheat, she simply adds the new man of interest to list of children as one more baby to look out for. Notice children came before husband on the list. It’s not in error, it’s the truth.

Study these 8 signs.

1. She stops arguing passionately with you.

When she loves you, she argues with you because she knows you respect her opinion, feelings and bias on certain topics. You are her 'go to person'. Always in her corner and you support her all the time. She holds you accountable for all you say but pardons your natural forgetful nature.

When issues come up and she lets you have your way without any resistance, something is wrong. Especially when she makes the 'hmmmmm', sighs and smiles sarcastically. Don't take it for granted, your new competitor or competitors are gaining ground in her heart.

2. She pays more attention to her phone than you.

This could work two ways. First, she might be trying hard to distract herself by staying in touch with current trends. That's a warning. But when she withdraws from using her phone in open spaces - Kitchen, bedroom and the living room; you should be very worried.

If she makes a continual habit of talking to her Twitter followers and friends on WhatsApp more than you during dinner time, it may point to her lack of investment in the relationship. She might be spending the nights with you but making daytime plans with someone else.

3. She's less interested in sex.

Every couple has sex routines. They do not admit it but they do. The children must be in bed. The nanny must have closed for the day and the bedroom door must be locked.

Maybe three times a week is your norm; maybe you get it in every night. But if your norm suddenly changes, and you find you're battling a new excuse every night, you may want to investigate what lies at the root of the issue.

Is she really too tired (every damn night)? Has your sex life just gotten that boring? Or, is she simply disinterested in humping you...because she's getting better service elsewhere?


4. Her social calendar suddenly changes.

Saturdays and Sundays are left alone to spend time bonding, playing and gisting. But she suddenly asks the questions - 'Can we talk'? - 'Where did that come from'? - And is she using the phrase 'I' more often than she uses 'we'? O boy be scared o!

She also is determined to have the whole day planned from start to finish with a long list of events she should attend alone and she has 5 reasons why its best she goes alone.

If you see your quality time slowly dwindling away, it absolutely points to her waning interest in the relationship, and it could mean she has transferred her affections elsewhere, or is at least entertaining the thought.

5. Suddenly acquires new clothes on a more routine basis.

Women are angels. But there are good and bad angels. God sent Lucifer and his cohorts out of heaven. If your girlfriend or wife suddenly goes into makeover mode and tears through all the shopping malls in Ikeja, Maryland and doesn't spare the ones on the Island; start praying o!

Most women have an affinity for retail, but if her shopping takes on a new dimension seemingly out of nowhere, you should ask yourself why she has become invested in reinventing herself.

Again, it's about ending her normal routine. If your girl normally puts on a full face of make-up to run errands, don't think twice about her putting on mascara to go to the market. But if she's the normal 'I just want to look simple' type of chick, and she suddenly starts taking an hour to get ready to go out (particularly, without you), stop sitting down and looking stupid. Be worried!

6. She's very concerned with your whereabouts.

When she calls, the first thing she asks all the time is 'where exactly are you'? It could mean you drop of the radar most times and as a guy she wants to keep small tabs on you.

But when it’s always the first question all the time. It's not for your well-being that she is asking. It's for her other engagements and arrangements. She wants the timing to be perfect -'robbing peter to pay paul'- she is more emotionally intelligent than you are - (guys always remember that fact).

She remembers things about your personal life faster than you can. She keeps dates and moments golden and fresh top of her mind. You only keep work and money oriented matters top of your mind.

7. She stops texting you.

Women hate one word replies. Wives especially love to communicate in full and share their emotions and everything with you. When you stop receiving texts from her. Be concerned. She can't through 5 hours of work and not check on her man with a text or WhatsApp message or skype. She always finds a way to chat you up.

When the texts stop coming, it could be she is either angry with you, (which she will also communicate via text) or your new replacement is receiving your 'texts' and all the benefits that go along with it.

8. She stops talking about the future.

Wives were first girlfriends that considered the future to see what they could make out of you. See, I know you guys go to church and the 'Man of God' sees the 'Will of God' for your life or your mum consulted 'her people' and they said there is light on this path.

Whatever the case may have been, there was some form of religious or customary finding made before the lady is told to say 'YES'! So, guys stop thinking you were irresistible - na wash o!

Apart from the gestapo - women only share their plans with someone they think they have a REAL future with. When she stops talking about her short, medium and long term goals with you; be very, very, very worried. She is telling someone else who is listening and supporting her.

I hate to be the one to pry those stubborn eyelids open, but if your girl can afford not to talk to you for days and you live in the same house, you need to stop making excuses and start getting answers.

If she is your wife, go and meet her and beg her to forgive you otherwise she will keep hurting inside and will make your life hellish outside. You will say - beg her for what abi. After all, I did not do anything. You did something o. Most times, wives’ behaviors are reactions to their husbands’ actions.

I have spoken - that's all.